restaraunt boycott alert

As the significant other of someone with Asperger's, when I read something like this, I see red. This was sent to me via the Orange County Asperger's Yahoo! list, here we go:

A woman and single mother named Stephanie came in to your restaurant on the 23rd and was treated with such intolerance and ignorance, I am joining with other parents of autistic children in the complete and total boycott of any of your restaurants. I am also the single
parent of a 15 years old with autism and no other food chain has ever acted as deplorably as you allowed your employees to act in this situation. I may have taken a harsher tone, but intolerance to anyone -- is intolerable:

Your actions are, in my mind, like asking a person in a wheelchair to leave because they cannot fit in your booths.

You should not only send a written apology to Stephanie and her son, your entire company should donate to Autism Awarness, train your employees so they can inform other patrons, learn empathy and charity, and send a letter demonstrating these actions to all autism
support groups.

We will share your intolerant and discriminating behavior with everyone we know, in my case, not only will it be family and friends, but all the educators and educator support persons who work with autistic children on a daily basis.

Shame on you for putting profits over people -- and you call yourself a family restaurant.

(name not reprinted to protect privacy)

Dear Management,

We are writing you on behalf of Stephanie and her family. You will be getting a letter from Stephanie regarding the actions of the General Manager and Sheila at this restaurant.

We are a family also dealing with Autistic Spectrum as Stephanie's family is dealing with. Autism in some form impacts 1 in 150 children in the US at this time.

Very clearly the actions of your General Manager to ask the parent and child to leave the restaurant when in fact the child's behaviors were due to a lack of service on the part of staff at this restaurant is unacceptable.

This is a 4 year old child with limited language that was hungry and didn't understand that food passing by him was not for him. If the General Manager and server understood this and gave the child some type of food or snack the outcome would have been different. Many children
with Autism have very specific tastes for food and limited choices. Finding a place where the child enjoys the food and atmosphere is hard enough without having a staff that is not understanding.

Making Stephanie take her child out of the restaurant crying with no food is not an acceptable solution to the problem.

Please know that we are 1 of many families that have been made aware of what happened at this restaurant. We are now choosing to not visit this specific restaurant from this point further and to make it known to friends and family that this particular location is not disability

We feel given this incident, all of the staff at this location and across your chain should be given Autism awareness training. April is Autism awareness month and given the actions of your staff, we feel there needs to be more compassion and understanding for families
dealing with Autism by staff in your employment.

The restaurant here is Applebee's.

I will be joining in the boycott of Applebee's, not that I really eat out anymore anyway, but this is ridiculous and unacceptable, and if you love someone on the autistic spectrum, I think you should do the same.

K thx

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My name is Kristi (my Heathen/Asatru name is Sigrun). I am a 26 y/o Beeper romantically involved (and living with) with a 39 y/o Aspie. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in August 2002, and my boyfriend is an undiagnosed Aspie but he is aware that he has it and definitely fits a lot of the behaviors on the spectrum. I am currently living med-free because I was overmedicated for 4 years and I still have cognitive impairment from the medication: difficulty concentrating, speaking, short-term memory loss, etc. I was on a cocktail of 7+ meds, none of which helped. Since I attained a more holistic lifestyle (proper diet, exercise, and routine), I have been feeling a lot better. Anyhoo, my question is this. Both my boyfriend and I get bad cases of the "fuckits" and need to get more motivated to do things, such as work out, study, etc. How can I best help him, and how can he best help me?

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Guardian article

This came up on my press searches today, and thought it might interest some of you too...

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Myths about Aspergers

Taken from the GRASP website: Myths about Asperger Syndrome

People With AS Cannot Have Normal Relationships or Live Independently.
While it is true that most people with AS/HFA do not marry and do not live independently, many do. As intelligent people, many of us are able to compensate for our handicaps through sheer force of will and determination.

—Allen Markman

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I encourage anyone facing Aspergers Syndrome, or any other kind of social anxiety to keep your world as wide open as possible. It will be difficult, sometimes it was enough to make me puke. I can now say, as a 41 year old, the efforts of all those years are paying off. Since my son was diagnosed with AS a couple of years ago, and I self-identified as a person with AS, I realized that I have been taming the monster of social anxiety/deficits day by day, year by year for as long as I can remember. I like most of my quirks, but that one got in the way of being myself.
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Asperger Syndrome: A Positive Perspective


My name's Chris. I'm 24 and I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome when I was about 9 years old.

I thought this community might be interested in a short film/animation I made, exploring the positive aspects of Asperger Syndrome. If you'd like to see it, please click the image below:

All feedback is appreciated. And thanks for taking a look :)
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